It’s my 20th birthday in 2 weeks, I’ve been bed bound and have been meaning to write for a while now.
I’ve been SO down for a various amount of things recently and one of the only things that seem to cheer me up is writing. And you all seem to really enjoy reading them for some strange reason because its actually just me gobbling on about how shite life can be sometimes. So I thought WHAT BETTER WAY TO SPEND MY TIME THEN WRITE A LIST OF THINGS I HAVE LEARNT OVER 20 YEARS. (this is basically going to be a list of my mistakes shhhh)
- Keep your clothes.
Seriously, however old you are, keep them. If you didn’t know I frigging LOVE fashion, and its one thing that has always really interested me. It can be a bad interest at time, as all of my wages go on new clothes. But at the same time, its such an amazing industry to love and be interested in. So at home, the spare room is my wardrobe. And I am lucky enough to have a LARGE amount of clothes, shoes and things in-between. Unless they don’t fit me, or have a stain that wont budge, I DO NOT SELL OR THROWN AWAY MY CLOTHES. I always find a way to make something work, for example, my grandma recently found an outfit of mine that I wore when I was 3. I amazingly fit into it, and the pattern on it was SO cool. She was going to put it away, and I was like I could make that into some groovy garms. So I did, I made it into a two piece. I also have clothes I bought when I was young, say 14, that I’ve made into different items, and all look so cool. However I have a really bad thing for thinking thinks are going to come back in fashion.If all else fails, and your shite with a sewing machine, or don’t have enough space. Depop is a blessing guys.
2. If he likes you, he will call you.
This is something I am STILL learning to get my head around. Boys are very strange at times, and can give off a lot of mixed signals. Don’t let somebody make you feel your not good enough, 90% of young people are constantly on their phones, so if he can not find 2 seconds out of his very important day to text you back, don’t bother. But honestly, if he doesn’t text you back for days, and doesn’t call when he says he will. He’s not interested. Do NOT wait around for anybody. Do NOT carry on texting him. The sooner us girls learn that, the better. If your abit of a fruit loop like me, you will just have to wait for somebody who can handle your fruit loopyness I guess… (same goes for girls too guys, it works both ways)
3. Boys in bands are always a good idea, just don’t date one.
Seen as though were on the topic of the male species, if he’s a musician guaranteed he’ll be fun and make your vagina cry. But he’ll also make your life a living hell. Have fun with one, but don’t get emotionally attached to one, they’re all lil devils in disguise… it’s very easy to get used to having someone sing to you, and write songs about you, and get matching tattoos with you (which by the way I don’t really regret this tattoo, its pretty cool tbh). DONT DO IT GUYS IM TELLING YOU IT DRIVES YOU INSANE. (no harsh feelings on this one, I’m trying to be nice here, so don’t get offended)
4. Girls will never grow up.
This one is so hard, and I wish sometimes girls would just open their eyes and stop being so fucking bitchy to one another. But they will never grow up. If your in school or collage and think when you leave they start being nice. DONT THINK THAT, COZ IM 20 AND STILL HEARING MY NAME COME OUT OF GIRLS MOUTHS IVE NEVER SPOKE TO. Just keep to yourself, and only bitch when you REALLY have too… coz lets be honest we all love a good bitch every now and again.
5. Having a bad breakup with someone will change you as a person.
Not going to go much into this, just know your not alone. It gets so much easier. Just be strong. Keep yourself busy. Block their number, if they want you, they will find a way to get you.
6. GO TO IBIZA
Do it, just go. Even if you go on your own, just do it. Its the most amazing place in the whole world. And you will meet so many amazing people, and make the most amazing memories. You will not regret going here.
7. Don’t be a physco.
One of the main thing I have learnt in my 20 years on this planet is DO NOT BE A PHYSCO. See unfortanley for me, I actually can not help being like that. But I am slowly but surely learning to be CALM in situations and TALK instead of screaming. I’m actually sat here laughing at some of the things I have done before, I scare myself sometimes. But anyone, boys don’t like it and it just pushes them away. I was with someone who id met ONCE before and they looked me in the eye and said “you look like a physco you” I think its my eyes… deffo my eyes.
8. Speak about your sexuality.
Like anything it gets easier when you talk about things, I’m quite an open person so always found it really easy to talk about. Never be scared to tell someone how you feel.
9. And mental health.
Again, something ive not always been honest about. I hid my eating disorder and depression for so long, all I can say is, it got so much easier when I was honest about it. If your not honest, you cant help yourself, let alone expect others to help you.
10. Spend time with your family.
I’m always busy, and recently me being ill ive had time to actually sit down with my family. It’s important to listen to them, they always give the best advice. Whether you want to hear it or not, they’re always right. They know you best.
11. Go places on your own, explore a new place on your own.
Even if you’ve never been to Manchester on your own, just get on a train and explore it on your own. You find cool places, and feel a lot more independent. Just keep yourself busy to keep yourself away from toxic people. One of my favourite things to do is get a train into a new city and SHOP, find cool vintage shops etc. Its so fun. The thought of getting lost is so fun to me. Maybe coz I’m a massive weirdo…
12. Buy a good pair of shoes.
I bought an expensive pair of Chelsea boots nearly 4 years ago and they have lasted me until now. INVEST in something expensive so it lasts you.Plus a good pair of shoes will take you to very good places.
13. Your just having a bad day, you DONT have a bad life.
Don’t need to elaborate on this one. Just read and think.
14. Your body will always change.
You will not look the same as you did last year, embrace this. You will always be beautiful in your own way. Never feel like you have to look a certain way.
15. Get a tattoo.
I never thought I would ever get tattoos, and then I got my first one, and they are honestly such a good way to express your feelings. I love all of mine so much. Always think about them first though make sure your 100% sure that’s what you want.
16. Write down important dates.
BE ADULT ABOUT THESE THINGS, DONT FORGET IMPORTANT DATES.
17. Go to the doctors.
Even just for a check up, make sure you go.
18. On that point, don’t go to hard with the partying.
Because you could end up like myself with a scare on my kidneys and on a million different antibiotics.
19. Make people laugh.
Your mind, is much more attractive then your physical features. Well I think so, I always find it so attractive when someone can make you really laugh and smile. Be that person.
20. Don’t change for anyone, love yourself.
Make sure you look in the mirror and COMPLIMENT yourself. Its good to like the way you look.